Friday, 21 August 2009

Marriage

I recently photographed my friends wedding in Greece, it was beautiful, 
they were child hood sweethearts,
I'm not the kind of person to publicly cry but lately I even cried at Marley and Me (so I must be getting softer) but that bought a tear to my eye.
It was the most beautiful wedding i've ever been to
25 close family and friends in a remote chalet on a greek island, with only us guys practically in the whole chalet. The ceremony itself was just a tiny walk from the door of her chalet ...about a yard and was where we had been hanging out the night before drinking ouzo melon, the whole 5 days we were out there was spent sauntering only as far as the beach about 3 yards away and back to the loungers.

Normally i'm not a doing nothing kind of girl, i always like to be doing stuff, be it skiing, walking round seeing things etc but sometimes it's great for 5 days just to do NOTHING
it felt amazing. The day of the ceremony was pretty scary though, I normally take an assistant on weddings but obviously being in greece i couldn't. And my friend is one of the nicest people i've ever met, the kind of girl that if every photo came out black would have just said 'oh crap, nevermind we'll take some portraits' I love those kind of people, the kind of people who realise however frustrating the things that have been done in the past, are in the past and how ever much you whinge on about it nothing will change you just wasted 2 days of your life whinging about something you can't change, 
I learn from these people, 
but anyway I was a bit stressed weddings are stressful and your friends wedding....even more som but there were some beautiful pics, I can't log into photobucket for some reason else i'd share a few outtakes, i can't put any of her up as despite being a model she's a very private person and would hate to see pics of her in her wedding outfit online although just a couple will feature on 
www.allisdream.com soon!

I will come back when i find a way to put up pics and put some up here.
It made me want to get married, so come on potential husbands, where are you??!!!???
 
It also made me think about the role of marriage today, I think now more than ever it's so important, more as a financial security for women than anything. I think it shows you are at a level in your relationship were you are willing to share everything you have together which, is important. So many relationships fail these days, and i see so many women give everything up when they find a man they love only to end up single for one reason or another a few years down the line rgretting it, 
now I'm not one of those kind of girls...maybe why im not married yet!!...my career will never be put on hold until I decide to start a family, i mean I'll always work, i'll always strive to be better but there will come a time when you have to put your work on hold a little if you have a family and I honestly think if your going to do this you need the security of marriage, not because i'm a gold digger i just think thats a decision made together and a financial decision that should be shared...just my two peneth!!

1 comment:

ted said...

Real love is about being fearless.It's about sharing who you are.Say what your feeling,say it now, and say it out loud.The more you do that the easier it gets and the better your life gets. You have so much soul and so much to give you need someone who accepts you just as you are and loves you for being that way.